I work with individuals and couples around the areas of relationship including sexual relationships. I work with individuals with the aim of working with people to enhance their lives and live them more fully.
In my work I retain the fundamentals of traditional relational therapy—communication, listening, challenge, and growth—but apply them as relevant to modern relationships, which don't always fit traditional set-ups or expectations.
Some couples begin therapy after something very specific, such as finding out about an affair. For some couples, there has been a slowly evolving problem that worsened until coming to some final straw. Others say they are becoming aware of just how much their spouse has changed, or how much they themselves have changed- how much their world itself has changed. Transition through life stages i.e becoming a parent, blended families, bereavement, children leaving home all impact on relationship. Initial therapy sessions are often about managing emotions—feelings of anger, betrayal, and hopelessness. As the therapy evolves the work turns to building the skills couples need to handle all the future challenges that life will bring. Each individual's or couple's needs are adapted to the pace and requirements of their presenting concerns.
I welcome diversity in my practice, working with straight or gay or lesbian individuals and couples.
I work in a way that focuses on helping clients to improve communication and interpersonal skills, overcome shame and anxiety about sex or body image, and move past negative sexual experiences.
Like other psychotherapies, sex therapy consists of increasingly open discussions . Unlike other talk-based therapies, sex therapy for some problems includes structured exercises performed at home between therapy sessions. Exercises can sometimes be done alone, and in other situations it can be beneficial to for a partner to participate. Although the word "homework,"is used most people find these tasks much more pleasant.
Most common psycho-sexual problems are:
For men: Erectile dysfunction,premature ejaculation,retarded ejaculation.
For women: Vaginismus, dyspareunia and vulvodyna
For both: Difficulty with orgasm, loss of libido, differences in sexual desire within the relationship, sexless relationships, lack of intimacy.